DRAMA can be described as fighting or trying to fight in someone else’s battle. You/I don’t belong there. I am not equipped for that battle. In the first place, the battle belongs to THE LORD and to whoever is being attacked. It makes it super hard if the person in the battle is not a believer because then they are on their own. Jesus is there to help them but not if they do not reach out to Him and believe and be saved FIRST. So that is a completely different circumstance and right now I will address believers.
If we stop to think about the drama in our lives we will see, if we are being honest with ourselves, that most drama is caused by jumping into someone else’s battle. Yes, we have battles on our own but if we are looking at the truth—most drama is from us sticking our nose into someone else’s business/battle.
Now we may be asked to jump in to help them, to fight with them. Mostly we are asked to sympathize and take their side. This is a critical time to STOP and pray about this and step back. We are often asked to come beside them—BUT only if the Lord directs. We can be behind them with prayer and loving support but we can’t nor should we try to fight the battle for them.
This often happens with our children as they become adults. Yes, we need to fight for them when they are young children, that is our job as parents. However, we need to be teaching them also how to fight these battles on their own knees. We need to teach them, it is our job, how to pray, how to meditate on God’s word, and listen for His voice so they learn to fight these battles.
We need to teach them and remember ourselves as they become adults that each of us must put on our own ARMOR OF GOD. We need to remember as we deal with our other family and friends that we can support, as THE LORD directs, but they have to put on their own Armor. EPHESIANS 6:10, 11, 14-18
Finally, build up your strength in union with the Lord and by means of His mighty power. Put on all the armor that GOD gives you so that you will be able to stand up against the devil’s evil tricks. So stand ready, with TRUTH as a belt tight around your waist, with RIGHTEOUSNESS as a breastplate, and as your shoes the readiness to announce the GOOD NEWS of PEACE. At all times carry FAITH as a shield; for with it you will be able to put out ALL the burning arrows shot by the evil one. And accept SALVATION as a helmet and the WORD OF GOD as the sword which THE SPIRIT gives you. Do all this in PRAYER, asking for GOD’S help. Pray on every occasion, as the SPIRIT leads.
Their battles should remain theirs and mine—mine. Otherwise, it becomes Drama that no one needs extra. I do damage to their walk when I surge forward and even sometimes knock them aside “thinking” and “acting” that I know more or can do it better. I’M in charge—NO, I AM NOT! Nor should I be, THE LORD SHOULD BE. The question is —IS HE? Am I guilty of stirring up drama and not letting them put on their own armor?
I do damage to them and to myself. I open myself to battles and drama I am not expected to handle and not equipped to deal with. I would be far wiser for them and for myself to just listen when they need to talk, have real empathy and tissues when they need to cry, laugh with them if that is the need and keep my opinions and suggestions to myself.
My words and my actions mean nothing if they are not said and done in Love. No expectation of thanks or reward or even acknowledgment —just Love. I must just TRUST that GOD is in control and I am only an instrument to show His Love.
HOW DO I DO THAT?